And the winner is...

Survey says... Let them think they won, you know you're right and that's what matters!

This philosophy will help avoid an argument at the time... just don't let it fester then come back to bite you later! Because you WILL get the big, "YOU AGREED WITH ME!"  My husband and I have been down this road so many times I can't even count, because we both do this. He will tell you that he does not back down, but I pretty sure he just let's me think I won, and vice versa... Because inevitably the subject will come up again and at some point one of us will bring up the fact that we already had this "conversation" and we agreed that blah blah blah... So what's the answer??? You tell me and we'll both know!  Know when it's ok to bring stuff back up, or don't bring it back up at all?  I don't think there is a standard to follow in this scenario.  You really just have to learn to read your partner. What kind of mood are they in? Was is a good day... busy day... stressful day? All of these things factor in to whether or not you are about to have a conversion, heated debate, or screaming match.  Learn to read the signs and you'll be in good shape! Oh and by the way... same rules apply at "bedtime" ;)